My Body Philosophy with Bio Oil
Body confidence is something we can all relate to, no matter how old you are, your religion, ethnicity or sex. With constant pressure from the media to look a certain way and to follow the trends is it any wonder we doubt our looks…
I have had body dismorphia since I was about 13. It was when I started high school and I grew boobs and guys suddenly became important. I have had a slim build growing up as I was so tall. My friends started talking about diets and I felt I needed to also to keep up with them. I do believe I was a ugly duckling a bit. No boys ever fancied me or asked me out until I was 16. I think from 16 onwards I found my style and I grew into my body, that’s how I would put it anyway.
When I was 14 my friend Becky and I tried the grape diet to shed a few pounds (which we didn’t even need to loose), I’ve always had a muffin top it’s hereditary on my mum’s side we always have them. This consisted of eating grapes for a week and having one meal a day. Obviously the diet was stupid and we ended up passing out in PE so please do not do these ridiculous diets they don’t work. Even when at my skinniest I still have a jelly belly! In the past few years a few strangers have made pregnancy comments a few times but now it really doesn’t bother me as I know I’m not fat or pregnant looking! As I turned 16 I was a tall lanky size 8 but still when I looked in the mirror I was just an ugly lump who no one liked. The pressures of media and the pop culture were bad enough when I was at school. It must be awful for teenagers today as it has got so much worse.
When I turned 18 it was like a flick had switched in my head I finally saw how skinny I was and wanted to stop. I started to enjoy food and relax more I had a boyfriend at the time and knew he loved me regardless of my size. Make-up has defienlty boosted my confidence and I started to feel pretty and get noticed more. Since putting on some weight as well I really do feel I suit it so much better and feel so much happier on the inside. In 2013 I became really ill when I fell into debt living with my ex, I went from a size 12 to a size 6 in the space of 2 weeks. This caused alarm and I had many tests, operations and procedures done to work out why I wouldn’t put on weight. This was such a scary time and I didn’t see then that I was punishing myself by not eating. I knew if I ate I would feel sick and anxious so I simply had 1 cup a soup a day! This was all down to my depression and my ex being a degrading, manipulative sociopath. This certainly didn’t help me feel great or wonderful at all. That Christmas I did my first press article and looking back now I look awful, I am bones, my clothes don’t fit and god my hair! Shame those pictures will always be on the internet now.
Now I’m 22 and it’s 2 years on since that phase of my life. I’m a size 12 and truthfully I can finally say I am 100% body confident and happy in life. This is down to my partner being so loving and supportive for sure as he reinforces he doesn’t care what dress size I am or how much pizza I eat he will always love me for me. I’m not fat and I certainly have gained broad shoulders and a bust in the last year which does make me appear bigger, but with the right cut and style of clothes I am able to overcome this and feel happy in what I wear. Stretch marks are the scars I walk away with from my battles and to be honest they really don’t phase me anymore I’m not Beyonce and I’m certainly not going to be booty shaking in a leotard so who will even see them! Bio Oil has massively helped me to maintain and reduce them over time. It’s certainly not a quick fix and I’m sure they will get worse in the future as I have children, but I know no matter what these marks show me just how far I’ve come and how loved I am today.
So a message to you all, no matter how crap you feel when you look in the mirror you are beautiful, you are loved. Stuff what anyone thinks of you. I love pizza, cake, and all the naughty things and I equally enjoy tasty healthy food. It’s all about having the right balance but enjoying your food and lifestyle. You only get one shot at this life and I would rather be happy and living life to full, rather than worrying what other people think of my body. Chances are and I used to do this a lot, I always felt people were watching me and judging me. What’s to say that person doesn’t feel exactly the same and hates themselves but just can’t speak out. Also if you are being bullied or hated on chances are the bully is more self conscious about themselves and how they look rather than worrying about you.
I chose my Blog Awards photo as my body confidence image, because I felt fantastic that night. It is very rare that dresses look right on me and this one made me feel so confident, although I came 2nd that night I still held my head high knowing how far I have come in self confidence, my anxiety and in life.
Body shaming is vile and no human deserves to be bullied or victimised for how they look. We are all beautiful, loved and are incredible creations. If we all as a whole spent more time complimenting people and being positive towards body image I reckon the world would be a much healthier and happier place.
Bio-Oil have teamed up with Body Gossip to bring you a fantastic competition! Share your #bodyphilosophy at http://www.mybodyphilosophy.com/ and you could WIN a 60ml bottle of Bio-Oil each week. 10 of you, my lucky readers will also get to WIN a Bio-Oil 60ml bottle each by commenting below with your ‘Body Philosophy’. Good Luck Everyone!
Emma xx
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Thank you for sharing so much emma your amazing i have been through the same which left me needing operation and stays in hospital and scars all over which are just me we are human and so glad your now happpy
My body philosophy is that looks fade but personality doesn’t. I like who I am as a person even though I’m not always happy with my shape.
My body philosophy – Love yourself!
Who cares what people think?
Those that mind don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind 🙂
Love this 🙂
My body philosophy is to keep my chin us and keep smiling as it usually prompts a smile in return !!
Love this, used this for stretch marks during my pregnancies
Love this product x
I always say if your happy with what you see in the mirror looking back at you then stuff what anyone else has to say 🙂
Thanks Emma.. great post! I now live by the philosophy to love your skin your in xx
Beauty is skin deep and shines through
very well said, thanks for the chance!
Great post! My philosophy is simple. Love who you are not what people want you to be…
I love your philosophy and the fact that it’s true, beauty is only skin deep. Never tried bio oil and this would be great for my surgery scars once the cast is off.
A great miracle product for scars and stretch marks
Just be yourself and be happy with who you are
my body philosophy is to learn to love the skin your in and then everything else falls into place
Always be yourself, at least people will know where they stand.
I’ve Heard a lot about this for scars/stretch marks. Would love to give this a go.
Love Bio Oil! My hubby uses it on his scars from surgery to remove an aneurysm from his leg last year.
my body philosophy is that you only get one chance at life and you should love the body that you’ve been given 🙂
I always tell my children that everyone is different and that real beauty is on the inside x
body dysmorphia is horrible to live with, but it’s nice to see a positive blog for a change. your amazing !
I’m sorry you had to go through so much to feel comfortable in your skin, and I’m pleased to hear you’re in such a positive place now. I have a similar story and it’s a constant battle to feel confident but having a supportive partner is a huge boost.
My body philosophy is that you have to be happy for yourself, no one else, pamper and treat yourself and as my nan always said “you should fall in love with someone’s eyes, as that’s the only thing that never changes with age, looks fade”
I love Bio Oil!! Fab post by the way x
Bio oil is fab…. My friend had her baby 7 weeks early today, this would be lovely to give her a little pick me up (as doubt she’s prepared with this sort of thing!)
Always be your own person the person you want to be!
This stuff is amazing thank you for the chnace
OH YES PLEASE I HAVE NEVER TRIED THIS BUT WOULD LOVE TO TRY GET RID OF MY STRETCHMARKS FROM HAVING MY BOY X
My body philosophy is love the skin your in . It’s yours look after it and it will look after you
A new dad of one week and loving it 🙂
My philosophy is no more diets, loads of fruit and veg and healthy food. I’ve been size 0 and size 16, now need to get rid of jelly belly or baby weight as others call it, will get there but won’t force it and won’t starve myself.
This is a brilliant product. I used it on a scar when I had an operation and the Consultant even said he was impressed the way the scar had healed.
I love bio oil! Great post too!! X
my body philosophy is to love the body you have, not the body you think you should have.
My body philosophy is be happy in your own skin, don’t worry over scars and marks, they are just proof of battles you have faced and won 🙂
I would love to try it myself please..
Loved reading this. So honest. Xxx
I love your blog, a good read. 🙂 x
Look after your body as you only get one.
Absolutely fantastic post. I love your blog and vlogs Emma, thank you for the giveaway x
love yourself and respect your body
Be yourself, Trust yourself & love yourself
Great product, tried and tested and actually does wonders for the skin x
Excellent read 😀
Fab prize, would love to win.
My body philosophy is that you shouldn’t worry about what others think and learn to love yourself, what one person finds beautiful another won’t! I think the majority of women have stretch marks, I had similar body issues when I was younger so really related to your story, thank you!
My Body Philosophy is…you have been given an amazing vessel to carry your gorgeous spirit around in, a vessel capable of fantastic physical feats and quite frankly, medical miracles. So treasure it, nurture it, adore it – after all, it’s one of the biggest, most beautiful parts of you!
Don’t be hard on yourself- love yourself and others will love you too
My body philosophy is that you put a smile on and you will always look good .I work in a customer based job and you can work out the nice people by the the way there wrinkles form
Love bio-oil use it everyday and couldn’t live without it,hero ptoduct
Love yourself for what you are. Appearance is nothing. Do good and be kind to people. As my mother taught me, even the most beautiful person can have an ugly heart.
My body philosophy is to love your body no matter what because trust me – you look great!
My body philosophy is to take it one day at a time. I suffer from a chronic illness and if I do too much or try to act like a regular person, my body suffers and I am in agony for days, confined to my bed. By taking it one day at a time, I am working at my body’s pace and just focusing on the now rather than what I want to do have done four years down the line.
A real life body isn’t filtered or photoshopped like the celeb pics.
My body philosophy is to emphasise your good points – and learn to worry less about the not so good!
Great blog article! As I have gotten older, I now realise that true beauty comes from within, but products like Bio Oil definitely boost confidence & an inner glow! Thanks for the giveaway 🙂
My Beauty Philosophy is…… Smile
My body philosophy is that you need to love yourself before others can love you (and that doesn’t mean being arrogant!). I went through depression and anxiety earlier in the year due to my doctor changing my contraceptive pill to one that made me a crazy woman!! It really effected my self esteem but now I have gone back to my normal pill and I’m fine I can see how my constant negative talk about myself was bringing my boyfriend down and creating a barrier between us. We are much closer and happier again now. Loving yourself makes everyone feel better 🙂 x
Always smile at those who try to bring you down, always remember you are you and you are unique.
My body philosophy is to always look after your skin put creams on that suit it and drink water but most of all glow from the inside we all have days we feel rubbish but others do not have to know
My body philosophy is no matter what to always wear a smile 😀
My body philosophy is to make the most of what you’ve got. We all have bits of our body that we don’t like, but you can work with it. Dress in flattering clothes that suit your shape, stand up straight and be proud of who you are!
Glad to hear you’re back on the mend!
I used this many years ago was amazing after loosing weight I could really do with using it again to reduce the stretch marks xx
My body philosophy is be nice on the inside and it shines on the outside!
Thank you for sharing your story hon. I’ve lost 5 stone in the last 8 months from healthy eating and exercise, and I love reading other people’s journeys too xxx
My body philosophy is that; together we are all human, we all have some form of scars/ marks that each tell a story of our journey of life so far! Love the body you have been given and embrace the skin your in xxx
I loved that you shared your story. My body philosophy is pretty much like your story. How you feel about your body only reflects how you feel about your deeper self. When you are happy with yourself, feeling confident and are enjoying being you in all your uniqueness – then you feel good about your body too.
My body philosophy is love yourself, and drink lots of water.
My Body Philosophy is ‘Wear what makes you feel great’ ! If you try something on and you love it so much you want to skip around and dance remember that feeling !!
My body philosophy is Beauty comes from the inside
Bless you for sharing Emma. I used to work with a girl who suffered from body dysmorphia and it’s horrendous. I’ve had weight issues all my life, like most women, and even at 57, it’s still of concern to me, but more so from a health angle! If I lose some weight, hopefully my hips will get better and stop aching so much, but that’s a small issue in the grand scheme of things… Take care xx
Everyone has something they’re not keen on about their own body but I say celebrate your favourite parts & make the most of them. If we have our health we should count ourselves lucky
After having a baby and the lengths it took to get here I have a few scars but my philosophy is my body has carried a life what is more beautiful than that
This looks a great product Emma!
Love yourself!
To love yourself xx
Love Bio oil, thankyou
Lovely giveaway, feel happy with yourself and this will show on the outside
Everyone has there own personal hang ups, no matter how perfect they may appear on the outside! Try and feel comfortable in your own skin!
I used to be bullied at school for being skinny & how I dressed cause I was never fashionable & was bought 2nd hand clothes & it really knocked my confidence even up to the last couple of years & I’m 37!
I’ve finally learnt over the years especially with 2 girls is to s*d thinking what other people think about me & be happy with the way I look.
I really dont like myself much; but am working on it. Sadly I see that my daughter is going the same way.
I was very skinny as a teenager and young adult. Now I have to watch my weight. Ironic! I also had frizzy, mousy hair and huge boobs, both of which were a total embarrassment. Boys loved me and we always asking me out, but that’s because they didn’t look above my neck. Thank you for telling us about your difficulties. I wonder if many young women are truly confident in the body they get?
My philosophy is simple be kinder to yourself and love yourself from inside out
Great prize thank you- just love bio oil
Always look after and respect your body because if you don’t no one else will.
Thanks for making me feel a little better about myself. 🙂
My body philosophy is that it’s wrong to compare yourself to others and be grateful to be happy and healthy
My philosophy is it’s the only body you’re going to get so look after it and be grateful for what you have. More important though is be happy!
Would love to be slimmer, taller, fitter etc but my family seem to love me just as I am so that has to tell me something 🙂 x
My body philosophy is to accept your body as it is for all its unique stretchmarks.
I have a huge scar after extensive surgery so hoping this might help.
Amazing!
I’ve always said each and every flabby bit, scar, stretch mark, wrinkle shows what I’ve been through and above all that I’m a Mum to 3 gorgeous little ones, with that in mind I couldn’t possibly have a body of my former 20 year old self at 36, life is so much better when you embrace what you got and live <3
Love Bio Oil especially this time of the year. Great giveaway thank you x
I’ve used Bio Oil before, it’s a great confidence booster :). Thanks for hosting the competition Emma – love reading your tips and tricks!
E x
I have scars, freckles and pimples on my face. I have flat chest and butt. But I don’t hate them, my body philosophy is perfect imperfections make me unique:)
try and not think about what others are saying or doing. Be yourself and have fun.