Finding compassion and forgiveness for yourself and others can be hard, especially when you feel stuck and are struggling to move on from the past. So today I wanted to share with you my 3 easy steps to compassion and forgiveness which you can start to implement this week.
First of all, we’ve got to start with acceptance of the situation. If you’re struggling to forgive yourself or others it’s not saying that what they did was right or you’re letting them off the hook by finding acceptance and peace. All it means is that you’re setting yourself free and allowing yourself to grow and evolve. So first of all ask yourself – do you have full acceptance over the situation? What can’t you find peace with? What core emotion is underneath this? When you can find the core emotion then you can start to dig into this. Tune into that core emotion and ask yourself – when was the first time I felt this? Trust the first age that comes to you and that’s your place to start. Working with your inner child and having the acceptance that maybe the frustration you feel isn’t to do with what’s happening currently for you but actually at a previous age/memory will allow you to explore the inner work and release this.
“If you’re struggling to forgive yourself or others it’s not saying that what they did was right or you’re letting them off the hook by finding acceptance and peace. All it means is that you’re setting yourself free and allowing yourself to grow and evolve.”
Next up it’s time to focus on compassion, the way you can lean into compassion is through radical self-love. If you were to rate your self-love score on a scale of 1-10 today (1 being I don’t love myself and 10 being I fully love myself) where would you be on the scale? Creating your own self-love and compassion affirmations is a great place to start and also creating yourself a weekly self-care routine that enables you to fill your cup and take time out for you time and self-love. I have numerous blog posts and YouTube videos on these topics if you’d like some examples. Expressing compassion for yourself and others is important because it’s remembering that we’re all doing the best we can at any given moment with the tools we have. Sometimes the best form of self-love is boundaries and learning from the experience that implementing loving boundaries is a great form of self-love and positive action moving forwards. But overall be gentle with this process – compassion takes practice and it’s definitely one to lean into by wrapping yourself up in self-love.
Letting It Go
Finally, my last step is letting it go – cue Elsa from Frozen! Once you’ve found acceptance and are practicing self-love and compassion it’s now time to start letting this go so you can move forwards and find forgiveness in your own time. I would suggest writing a forgiveness list and of course include yourself on this too! Even though you may not think you’re holding onto judgment of yourself, more often than not we blame ourselves in these situations too. Or maybe you do blame yourself openly and want to move past this now. Start your list with sentences such as ‘I forgive you (name) for….(what happened)…because I understand that…’ then sit and reflect upon why you think yourself or others did or said whatever happened. Take yourself out of first-person mode and think about what you’d tell a friend or small child if they came to you with this situation. This can be a really transformative practice to do and once you’ve finished your list (write as many points as you can) you can then burn this or destroy it in a safe way to release this to the Universe. You could also repeat the ancient Hawaiian forgiveness prayer ‘Ho’oponopono’ as you’re doing this. “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you”.
Forgiveness is definitely a practice to lean into and go at your own pace with, there is no right or wrong here. You may even want to do these 3 steps a few times to be able to reach a peaceful place of awareness, compassion, and forgiveness. Give yourself the gift of freedom this week Queen and please do let me know how you get on with these steps!
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