Once again February seems to be the month of love, well all months should be when we express love to our close ones and ourselves really! As this month’s theme is self-love in my membership also I thought it was a great time to share 5 great ways to work with self-love this February no matter what your circumstances whether you’re celebrating this Valentine’s Day with your someone special or you’re self-partnered (thank you Emma Watson for this term!).
The timely saying is so true if you can’t love yourself then you won’t be able to love others, now some people may be thinking hmm not true as I do love my partner SO much but have never loved myself or the way I look. What I would say here is to look at co-dependency do you rely on your partner for validation, compliments, and support? This is where real love gets hidden, so this is the time if you relate to being codependent where you can take back your power, heal this and love yourself fiercely Queen. Equally, if you’re single or self-partnered and keep attracting the same kind of lover or even hate being by yourself this is also the perfect time to do the work, heal these wounds and love yourself fiercely Queen to attract that love you so deserve. So without further ado let’s explore my five great ways…
Mirror Work & Affirmations
Mirror work is a great tool from the legendary Louise Hay where you repeat positive affirmations in the mirror for at least 21 days to not only re-write your limiting beliefs but also to create a harmonious relationship with yourself in the mirror. Start off small you could either say ‘(your name) I really really love you’ whilst looking into your eyes and see how uncomfortable that feels! At first, your ego may scream at you or you may even think no I don’t! Either way check-in with where you are today and start along this 21-day journey where every day you tell yourself in the mirror you love yourself. Also if you want to take this to the next level you can even add self-love affirmations into this practice by saying for example ‘I fully love and approve of myself’ or ‘I am beautiful inside and out and love every aspect of myself’.
Spending Time Alone
Next up is do you spend enough time alone? If you’re like me and work from home you may spend a lot of your time alone – but is this really quality time alone? I don’t mean sitting watching TV or working, I mean sat with your emotions, doing a good self-care routine and spending quality time with yourself. This is something people often miss especially if they live with others or have children, alone time is still important so that you can fill your own cup – as you can’t pour from an empty cup! So this month make sure you’re making time for yourself Queen.
“This is the perfect time to do the work, heal these wounds and love yourself fiercely Queen to attract that love you so deserve.”
Now you may be familiar with journaling already but if you aren’t then all you need is a notebook, pen and an openness to answering these questions. Journaling can look like many self-reflection practices but today I want to keep it simple with you guys and give you these journaling prompts to explore in your own time. So in your notebook journal down your answers to these…
- Where do I rate my self-love on a scale of 1-10 today? (1 being none and 10 being the max)
- What things do I love about myself currently?
- What things do I do for myself currently?
- What things do I wish I did for myself each week as an act of self-love?
- What action can I take this month to develop my relationship with myself?
Next up is another journaling practice once you’ve done the above journaling prompts. Write a list of all the reasons why you love yourself currently. Now, these have to be true statements to you in the present moment not what you want to love about yourself, so even if that’s three things right now honor where you’re at and what feels true for you today. Once you’ve finished your list keep this safe and you can read it back to yourself at any time or even add to it as your self-love grows.
Treating Yourself (Acting As If)
Last but certainly not least is treating yourself Queen! How often do you buy yourself something as an act of self-love? You may buy yourself treats each week but make this a conscious practice where you recognise this is for your self-love. Also, a big point to make here is this is not about how much money you can spend it’s about the joy this item or service will bring you. So if you wanted your partner or future love to buy you flowers – buy yourself the flowers because you deserve them! Do this once a week and you’ll be surprised how much your self-love goes up and also how your relationship with money improves also.
So there you have it guys there are my five great ways to work with your self-love this month. I hope this blog post has inspired you to try these practices and to make self-love your priority this month and every month! As always please do let me know your thoughts on this in the comments section down below. Also, there are only 2 tickets left now if you’d like to come to my Spiritual Queen Summit on the 8th of February in London click here to find out more information and how to get a ticket. I hope you have a great week whatever you’re up to and I’m sending you all lots of love xx