Being single sucks they said, well actually being single and living by myself for over a year now has not only transformed my work ethic and drive but has equally transformed my entire personality. Being set free has hand on heart been the best thing to ever happen to me. So I wanted to share with you the reasons why I’m celebrating being an independent woman!
Don’t get me wrong I am wanting to meet my husband and settle down, but really I wanted all of this way too young and with the wrong boys. From a very young age, I wanted to be a mum and meet my husband young and go and live happily ever after…I actually remember wanting to be married at twenty-one and have kids by twenty-three. Being at that age now the thought of being responsible for another human being scares me, I just don’t feel ready. My entire life is devoted to my career that has just really started to take off, I’m just happy with where I am right now. For over five years I’ve relied on boys to somehow fulfil and make me happy when really I needed to do some growing up and experience life for myself. I was so young and hadn’t even had the chance to see the world yet, and there I was just over a year ago planning my life and considering trying for a baby with a boy who was about to sabotage my life. Luckily, he didn’t succeed in this but by being set free from a toxic relationship I was finally forced to stand on my own two feet and become a strong woman for the first time in my life.
Having this new found freedom scared me greatly, anxiety and depression had ruled me for so long I suddenly had to fend for myself and be an adult. I had to earn more money to pay the rent and bills he had run off from and pick every piece of myself back up whilst running my businesses. Rock bottom became my new best friend but from that, I rose up and rebuilt my world entirely and with that came power.
The power to not care anymore, to forgive even though I had no apology and to set myself free from victim mode. Overcoming all my fears and the obstacles that had limited my life for so long made me feel powerful and human. It made me feel normal once again, once I had discovered the law of attraction this once again taught me that I was able to give myself everything I needed in life. I said no to boyfriends and yes to myself, I gave myself commitment, time to heal and most importantly I was unapologetically living life on my terms.
If you look at my YouTube videos from the last year you will see my confidence grow and grow. I began to feel accepted, loved and authentic in all aspects of my life. I started public speaking and facing challenges in my personal life which no one should have to go through alone. Although I had a great network of support through friends and family, they were never there at night when the loneliness would creep in again. So I started to make my flat my retreat, a place to go and be by myself where I could meditate, work on myself and be in my own sanctuary of positive vibes and inspiration. People then started to notice my confidence and use the word ‘inspiring’ which seemed almost alien to me that my negative situations and mistakes in life would inspire people?
I’m not saying that by being in a relationship you’re not independent but I have certainly needed this year to perfect the art. When I meet my husband I will still be independent, maybe not to the extent I am now but I want us to have separate friend groups and hobbies so that we can have time apart but equally make the most of the times we are together. I really do feel this final relationship will be so different to all my others as I feel like I finally know myself which is key, I have respect for myself and I know where my life is heading. So from being forced into independence I have found my inner strength and learnt massive life lessons all in one year.
“My theory on life is that life is beautiful. Life doesn’t change. You have a day, and a night, and a month, and a year. We people change – we can be miserable or we can be happy. It’s what you make of your life.” – Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum
The best result from being a strong ass independent woman is happiness. Being truly in love with yourself, your life and your destiny. I can’t begin to tell you how euphoric fulfilment in your life can be. I hope that every single one of you reading this finds harmony and peace in your own lives. I say it time and time again but The Magic by Rhonda Byrne gave me independence, confidence and happiness I never felt possible, not through friends, family or even a man but through myself. That’s really the secret to life finding joy within yourself and helping others find it too.
Simply, that’s it. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope that you all become strong independent women who say no more to suffering, hurt and negativity in your lives. I hope you all have a fantastic week, and I would love to know what you think makes an independent woman?